I often get asked the question, “does it get easier“? I remember asking the exact same question after my husband died.
I had to ask myself, “what would my life look like if it were “easy”? How I described it in my head, it seemed to have every attribute of temporary, comfortable, and feeling good. I noticed my picture also had many societal and conventional norms, as if to say “easy” is to fit-in nicely into human expectations.
I don’t think we are suppose to thrive to have that easy life. It is temporal and can change so rapidly, as we know. I find that it is only in uncertain and dark times, those times when we are uncomfortable and not at ease, that we experience beauty, wisdom, and peace.
We are not made for this world, God calls us to greatness and the only way this can be accomplished is by letting go of “ease” as being the victory. He is the only victory.
Grief becomes different and transforms our lives. It doesn’t become easy. I no longer look for an easy life as I once did. The soil is different and so much richer, and He calls us to a fulfilled life that has nothing to do with the temporary things of this world, and everything to do with the eternal.
Does it get easy? It gets transformationally different. The intensity lessens eventually, and you learn to accept that you will always hold that person and your memories close to your heart.
“So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
2 Corinthians 4
